So what is an uncommon life anyway and why would I think that I'm living one? Online dictionaries variously define "uncommon" as unusual, rare, not ordinarily encountered, wonderful and remarkable. I think "uncommon" is something both more and less than the all-encompassing notions of the dictionary writers. Uncommon is probably anything any single person does not experience on a regular basis. By that broad and I'll admit somewhat biased definition, it stands to reason that all of us are living uncommon lives. That is what I intend to convey by naming my blog "An Uncomon Life."
I think life, all life, is a matter of perspective, mine, yours, his, hers, theirs. I don't believe any of us experience events in the same way. My experience of living on a small farm in the deep South won't be the same as yours, even if we both live on small farms in the deep South (which, by the way, I do). The way we experience events in our lives depends very much on the colander of perspective through which we filter them. My filter, my colander of perspective, is created through my experiences and how I perceive them. It won't be the same as yours and that's what makes my life uncommon--my personal perspective of my experience.
If it all sounds a little philosophical or New Agey or hogwash, well, it can be. It's also a wild, wonderful, strange ride. I don't expect to waltz into the afterlife via the pristine halls of my perfect life because it has been anything but perfect. I expect instead to slide feet first into my grave with my clothes full of mud, my hair smelling of incense, and my lipstick smeared screaming, "What a fucking awesome ride!" I know that's a pretty popular saying right now, maybe even a meme, but in my case it fits. Plus I think that's what the Divine Creator wants of us; to live, to truly live, an uncommon life. Uncommon lives are notoriously messy.
This blog won't be specifically spiritual but it will contain elements of spirituality. It will not contain elements of organized religion because that is not a component of my uncommon life. What else will be in here? Well, all the things that I love and that make my life unusual. My thoughts about my experiences, stories about my loved ones including my grown son, my daughter-of-the-heart, my mom and dad, my brother and his family, my dog, my cats, my ferrets, my farm (which, by the way, is called Elysian) and certain other challenges, worries, efforts both successful and failed, just the stuff of my unusual life.
A more specific example would be the following: I like to cook...now. I'll write about how it came to be that I went from hating and resenting cooking to loving the whole process. I incorporate magick into the experience, I'll write about how that came to be. I love my pets. I'll write about how they sustain me and how I moved away from relationships with other humans and into closer experiences with non-humans. Yes, I said, non-humans and that doesn't only mean pets. I adore my son. He's grown (yep, that means I'm not a spring chicken--part of having an uncommon life is surviving it! LOL) and has a wicked, very, very wicked, sense of humor. Usually, I'm the butt of the wicked part. I love my DOTH (daugter-of-the-heart). I'll write about how I came to mother her and how she saved my life. I love my extended family. I don't always understand them but that's OK, they often don't understand me. I'll write about them here, too. I'm also a writer of fiction. I write horror, mostly. I've had a few short stories published and while I'd really like to write a book, I'm not sure I've got what it takes to go the distance. I plan to share stories here from time to time. These stories will be lies, fiction, entertainment IOW. I'll clearly let my readers (if I have any) know up front if the story is fact, fiction, or "faction," which is, of course, a blend of the first 2. I also plan to explore why I may or may not have a book to write.
Since my life is uncommon, you can expect screw-ups. I plan to screw-up royally with this blog. I'm not here to present myself or my life as perfect. If you want perfection you can read the blogs of lots of incredibly organized, married women who extreme coupon while juggling 4 kids under 5 years of age and have husbands who are either soldiers or are the sole bread winners. They feed a family of 6 for less than $20/week. I can't do that crap! I don't even really want to--I tried it for a little while. OMG, that was an exhausting 48 hours! I hated myself and my son, pets, and extended family hated me, too! I learned a lesson--don't try to live like other people. That's like trying to teach a pig to sing-it's a waste of your time & it annoys the pig. I actually tried the married thing for a lot longer than 48 hours; now that was uncommon. I'll write about that here, too.
I'll write about all these lessons. Even when they make me look stupid; especially when they make me look stupid. Stupidity is a facet of an uncommon life. At least, so far, stupidity has been an important part of my uncommon life.
Lastly, this is an adult themed blog. It's not my job to protect your children on the internet nor is it my job to write around your personal tender spots regarding language or experience. What most people call "profanity" will be here occasionally...when I feel like adding it. Having said that I will say that this is NOT a pornographic or explicit blog. You won't find photos of my old naked ass here nor of the luscious naked asses of anyone else! You won't find images of blood or carnage either although I will have things to say about both sex and violence. Man, I hate having to add the lawyer crap to my own blog but that's the way it is! So, police yourselves, you've been warned. If you think you have what it takes to experience a little of my odd and wonderful life, read on. Otherwise, fuck off, go to a tamer part of the internet!
So, next time I plan to reveal a little more about me. Who is Gemini? Why should you care and why should you read about my rare life? I warn you though, I'm a private person so don't expect a ton of identifying details. I don't have a Facebook page (a fact my niece and my brother lament each time we see each other), I don't tweet, I don't choose to reveal myself in a way that might bring negative attention to me or that might embarrass or cause my son pain, now or in the future. I think it's a dumb idea to share all your vacation photos with "le monde." After all, haters are gonna hate and sometimes they hate in remarkably malicious ways. Think it can't happen to you? Keep on thinking that, maybe you're right and maybe you're wrong. I just refuse to bet my uncommon life or my uncommon future on it! Still, there'll be enough here to interest anyone who chooses to read this unconventional blog. I'll tell you how old I really am (my mother would squirm at that; she never tells her age so don't expect me to!). I'll share photos and comments and ideas. I'll show you Elysian; she's very beautiful. I'll show you photos, hopefully entertaining ones, of my pets and my life. I'll tell you a little bit more about why you should care...next time. I plan to blog several times per week so keep checking back because uncommon lives don't occur on a regular schedule and "next time" might just mean later tonight!
Peace and Blessings,
An Uncommon Gemini
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